1. Do you think they’re ‘the one’?
You’re thrilled and eager to offer your support to your friend who lately revealed that they’ve found a new lover. You might start asking them if they believe their partner is “the one” or if they envision wedding bells in the future, just to try and show them how serious you regard their new love. Asking a friend about their relationship’s future, particularly if it has just recently begun, might feel quite pressured.
Dr. Meg-John Barker, a psychotherapist, told BBC that society places a lot of pressure on finding “the one,” which can lead to unrealistic expectations early in a relationship.
Furthermore, not everyone dates with the intention of finding a spouse, so it’s better to wait to bring up these milestones unless your acquaintance has explicitly addressed them.
Furthermore, you should offer your friend the space to determine whether their current partner is “the one” on their own time, even if they are searching for the ideal person to settle down with. According to an eHarmony study (via PR Newswire), couples who take their time getting to know one another before saying “I do” typically end up in happier relationships.
Rather than inquiring about your friend’s belief that their new relationship will end happily ever after, focus on the here and now and how things are going.