The first rule is that you cannot catch feelings.
Friendship-with-benefits [FWB] is a s3x-focused relationship that forgoes emotional commitment and attachment.
Although the idea goes against the fundamental principles of conventional partnerships, it is nonetheless a stark reality in today’s culture, and much of that has been covered here.
Because this unique union is unlike partnerships as we currently understand them, its operating principles differ greatly from those of any relationships you may be familiar with.
So, if you ever find yourself in one, keep these seven guidelines in mind:
1. Love isn’t permitted here
It’s highly likely that one or both of you will begin to experience emotions.
Allowing these emotions to develop significantly alters the situation. By taking action, the FWB relationship becomes a legitimate one. And that’s not acceptable until both of you agree that’s what you actually want.
2. Don’t text, sext
The only SMS to send a friend who has advantages is “my place or yours?”
If you text in the same way that regular boyfriends and girlfriends do, discomfort and confusion are more likely to occur.
3. Couples go on dates, not you.
This one is particularly challenging because you might need to put meals together at some point. Don’t treat this situation, if it arises, as a romantic date.
Additionally, traveling to any other event or occasion together is strictly forbidden in this form of relationship. These are the kinds of things that evoke strong emotions in people.
And you don’t want to convey any emotions at this time. The likelihood of not receiving those feelings in return is very great.
4. A friend cannot participate in this.
A friendship with benefits is one that functions best with someone you’ve just met and aren’t particularly close to. You don’t want this to sour good relationships.
This is also not the ideal option if you are a hopeless romantic because it is a greatly diminished version of the kind of union you will truly yearn for.
5. Absence of envy
Never ever feel entitled to sex, regardless of how good it is. Your so-called “partner” is not yours, and acting entitled will make you feel envious.
A FWB relationship is not the place for any of that.
6. Socializing with new individuals is permitted.
People who aren’t ready for relationships but who still need to satiate their sexual needs frequently engage in FWB.
Don’t exclude new people, however, simply because you’re in a continuing FWB relationship, when the time comes.
You owe this person nothing, not even your loyalty.
7. No introduction to friends
You don’t need to tell your family and friends about them. Nope.